Have you noticed how the news often leads with a negative headline? So, if a survey asking people if they’re happy finds that 80% are happy and 20% are unhappy, you can be sure the news headline will concentrate on the minority of unhappy people. Even though 80% of those questioned said they’re happy! It’s important to find out how the 20% can be helped to feel happier, but rather than making the headline focused on the negative, why not begin by celebrating the positive?
We all write our own headlines for our own lives every day, and too often we choose to focus on the negative rather than the positive. For instance, you started the day wanting to complete all 15 tasks on your to do list but by the end of the day there were still three items to go. You ticked off 12 tasks, plus whatever else you did that wasn’t on the list, that’s nothing to beat yourself up about!
You get cross at yourself because you intended to go to the gym four times in a week but you only managed it three times. Instead of focusing on the one time you didn’t go, how about recognising the fact you worked out three times that week?
You think you eat too much chocolate so you plan to go a whole week without any. On the sixth day you chomp through a bar and then berate yourself for your lack of willpower, even though you went five consecutive days without any chocolate!
Just because you didn’t get to the gym, finish your to do list or abstain from chocolate on one day doesn’t mean you’re rubbish, a failure, have no willpower or can’t reach your goals – far from it! You’re just not perfect, and who is?
Recognise what you did achieve, the progress you made and resolve to try again the next day or week. Write yourself a positive headline.