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Hi, I'm Gabrielle

I support overdoing, overthinking, overwhelmed women who have spent their lives trying to fit in as the good girl they’ve been told they need to be, to feel free and their true selves.

I help you to free yourself from people-pleasing and perfectionism, to honour your boundaries and say no without feeling guilty, to accept yourself for the quiet, sensitive, beautiful soul you are, and to have more time for yourself so you can experience more joy, peace and calm every day.

"Gabrielle holds space exquisitely, there’s a gentleness that is powerful, it’s a way of saying she’s got you. You feel accepted, seen, she shares her safety with you."
– Sarah

My journey

I spent most of my life trying to be the good girl who did what everyone else needed or expected, as well as what I thought everyone else needed or expected. I was scared to make a mistake or to fail, fearful of disappointing anyone or for them to think badly of me. I believed I needed to make other people happy, to keep the peace, to not do anything that could possibly cause upset or displeasure.

My mind was always spinning with thoughts, never quietening down. My emotions ran high and strong, my interests darting from one thing to the next. I was too sensitive, too scattered, too idealistic, too much in some ways, not enough in others – or so I believed.

It was unsustainable, exhausting and overwhelming. I needed to learn that I’m good enough and worthy of respect, love and kindness just as I am, that I’m not responsible for everyone else’s happiness, that I’m allowed to say and do what I need, to mess up and make my choices and that doesn’t make me a bad person.

"Gabrielle has the innate ability to listen with a tone and a quality that is so focused and so interested that you, as the person on the receiving end of it, feel really seen and safe."
– Karen

Through discovering positive psychology I found comfort and calm, practical tools to come out of my head and into the present moment. To quiet the inner mean voice and find peace within my busy brain.

And then, aged 48, I discovered I have ADHD and so much made sense.

My people-pleasing, perfectionism, procrastination, struggles with boundaries, overthinking, sensitivity to criticism, overwhelm and more was rooted in how my brain was wired.

My assessing clinician's description of me as high functioning didn't only apply to how I’ve been able to manage the ADHD struggles to fit in to a large extent with expected, neurotypical ways of operating in the world, but also reflected the greater peace I feel for myself, the lens of self-compassion and self-acceptance through which I view myself.

It made sense not only on my life but of the work I do – why I feel so strongly called to support overthinking, overdoing, overwhelmed women to accept and love themselves for the quiet, sensitive, beautiful souls they are, and to feel more calm, peace and joy each and every day.

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What else?

• My first book, The 1% Wellness Experiment, was published December 2023
• I'm British but happened to have been born in the United States
• I’ve lived in Maryland and Pittsburgh in the US, and Southampton, Leicester, Manchester, Oxford, London, Dorking and now the Brecon Beacons in Wales, UK with my husband and little rescue pup
• My top character strength is Perspective and my number one core value is Compassion
• I’m sensitive, an introvert, highly empathetic, an Obliger, an INFJ and I have combined ADHD
• I've been volunteering at my local Trussell Trust food bank since 2016

"I can’t thank you enough for the difference your course has made to my life already and I feel like I’ve only scratched the surface so far. Lots of people around me have been noticing the change in me. For the first time in a long while I’m feeling optimistic for the future."
– Beverley Dent

• I can fingerspell and know a few words/phrases in British Sign Language
• I had a corporate life in youth publishing for 15 years and for several years I was a small creative business owner designing, manufacturing and selling stationery products  (named it after my favourite fiction book – Anne of Green Gables by LM Montgomery) 
• I can’t bear cauliflower but love peanut butter and jam sandwiches
• I’m spookily good at remembering numbers but rubbish at remembering what I went upstairs for
• My idea of heaven is spending the day curled up reading a book with a cup of tea and my pup
• I don't like scary movies or gritty TV dramas but I'm a sucker for a quality rom-com
• My pronouns are she/her, I’m an LGBTQ+ ally, actively anti-racist and always open and willing to learn

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What makes me happy...

…reading for hours … walks with my husband and pup … hearing my nieces and nephews laugh … tea and cake … starting a new notebook … sharing a meal with friends … pottering around my veg beds … singing and dancing along to cheesy pop songs … the smell of freesias … Italy … feeling the sun on my face…

My training...

I'm a certified life and positive psychology coach having studied life coaching with the Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy and positive psychology coaching with the Wholebeing Institute. I have also studied mindfulness with the Centre for Mindfulness Research and Practice at Bangor University and I’ve completed the Brain Science and Wellness Education Program with the Neuroscience Academy. I am currently studying an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology.

As a lifelong learner with an endless curiosity I'm committed to ongoing personal and professional development.

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Fabulous FREEBIES!
I've made some amazing free resources for you to feel more calm, peace and ease…

FREE Guide to starting your day calm

FREE Set of guided meditations

FREE Ebook to overcome your overwhelm

FREE Guide to making your own soothing self kit

“Gabrielle has helped me to feel less alone and so warmly accepted. Everything she shares is supportive and practical not to mention inspiring! You feel as though you’re reading from and listening to someone who truly does understand.”
– Amelia

This is for you

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Get freebies

Download the free guides, get my weeklyish emails or listen to the podcast

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Start learning

Check out the online courses and ebook available to you

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Get support

Want direct support with your specific challenges? Take a look at your one-to-one options

“Gabrielle's deep knowledge of how we think and positive psychology is a breath of fresh air. Everything she shares is authentic, uplifting and genuinely helpful.”
– Al