Live theCalm & Joyful Life
Live theCalm &
Do you dream of living each day with an unshakeable sense of calm, peace and self-trust?
You want to stop…
- feeling like you never have enough time
- doing what everyone else needs and wants first, and what you need and want last
- feeling like you're taken for granted
- saying yes when you're asked to do yet another favour
- doing what you think your mum / friends / colleagues / social media followers expect you to do
- feeling responsible for your family and friends' happiness
- snapping at your partner and/or the kids
- saying 'I don't mind' when really you do have an opinion
- fretting about getting something wrong or potentially failing
- biting your tongue when your boss piles on more work
- feeling guilty for wanting time for yourself
- starting new habits that soon fizzle out
- rushing from one thing to the next and the next
Instead you want to…
- say yes when you choose and no when you want without the guilt
- let go of second guessing what other people think and expect of you
- have more time and feel in control of your to do list
- create and honour better boundaries for yourself
- keep your cool when your partner / kids / boss / workmates are pressing your buttons
- know what you want and need and actually ask for it
- make time for taking care of yourself as well as everyone else, without feeling guilty
- feel confident giving your opinion
- be kinder to yourself with less self-judgement and criticism
- create and sustain healthy and supportive habits
- trust in yourself that you'll be okay whatever happens
- feel lighter, more relaxed and happier
Take a moment to imagine yourself as a calm, grounded woman, rooted in self-trust. You’ve a lot going on but you’re not frazzled or rushed. You’re clear on your boundaries and you know how to take action before overwhelm strikes.
You love and support those important to you while giving yourself the same care and kindness. You create, embrace and relish moments of light, fun and joy.
You value, understand and trust in yourself. You rest when you need to without the guilt. You speak up for yourself and you understand that if things go wrong it doesn't make you a failure.
When life’s going well you soak up the delicious feeling of contentment, letting it seep into your bones. And when life is challenging you trust that you’ll find a way through.
You're strong, centred, connected, present, authentic, peaceful, nourished, calm and joyful.
You feel like the real you.
“I was feeling unmanageably busy and stressed, trying to fix everything for everyone else, and not giving myself much time or compassion. I was missing out on enjoying what was good about life here and now and I was looking for help to move forward. The pause created by the pandemic felt like an opportunity to reassess things and make choices that would work best for me in the future.
“Coaching with Gabrielle was supportive, inspiring and life-enhancing. Now I'm more aware of how I'm feeling and of what I need to do to get back on an even keel if I get thrown by something. I'm saying no more often, when that is what feels right, and I am much more relaxed, present and enjoying being me.”
“Before coaching I felt like I was in a storm, overwhelmed and heading for burnout. I needed help to find a way back to calmer living. Now I am so much more centred in myself. I'm doing things from a point of I want to rather than I should. I'm happier, I'm more fun to be around and I have more energy. Thank you for helping me walk a little taller in the world.”
You don't have to just imagine
The version of you who worries what people think, who tries to live up to everyone’s expectations, who doesn’t want to let anyone down, who puts others first and themselves last, who’s scared of messing up or getting things wrong…
The version of you who’s grown up taking on the ‘good girl’ messaging society bombards us with, who’s followed the ‘shoulds’ instead of your intuition, who’s become so busy doing all the things that playfulness, peace and joy has been squeezed out…
That version is not who you really are.
These are layers that have piled up and hidden the real you.
The you who you truly are, who you know you really are, is still there, waiting to be freed and brought out into the light.
You are free to be your calm, rooted, joyful self.
“I’m happier and I don’t get so phased by challenges. I feel I understand myself so much more now. When I started coaching with Gabrielle I was feeling overwhelmed, lots of things needed my time and attention and there was little time left for me. By the end of our time together I feel more confident, able, in control and I’m having more fun!”
“When I first connected with Gabrielle I was stressed, burnt out and I longed to enjoy life and just be myself. Gabrielle was so approachable, kind with a sense of fun, she wasn't at all judgmental but encouraging and understanding. My coaching experience was amazing, it went far beyond my expectations. My sense of humour has returned, I've set boundaries and I have moments of sheer joy and excitement. My husband has noticed I'm no longer so agitated or frustrated and my friends have noticed I'm more confident. Now I'm more relaxed, I look after myself properly, I have energy for my life – I'm just happier!”
What we can work on
Here are some examples of what I work on with coaching clients:
- Setting, upholding and communicating boundaries in a way that feels good
- Feeling more in control of your life and schedule
- Letting go of people-pleasing
- Understanding what you need and want, and confidently communicating it
- Lowering your stress levels, reducing your busyness and slowing down
- Taking better care of yourself
- Combating procrastination, creating and maintaining new habits
- Switching off and being present in the moment
- Becoming unstuck, having clarity and moving forward in following your dreams
- Being calmer and more relaxed
- Having more time, energy, fun and feeling happier
Following coaching my clients have found greater fulfilment in their careers as well as starting businesses, moved home and followed creative pursuits, strengthened and deepened their connections and relationships.
I will support you to…
- identify what gets in the way of your calm and joy, including the social, environmental, inter-relational, and personal factors
- find calm through creating, communicating and honouring your boundaries
- understand yourself better so you can live and act in peaceful alignment with your values and your nature
- develop self-trust by practicing self-compassion, self-kindness and self-conservation
- and become more mindful, grounded and resilient so that you're in control of how you respond and act
And I will help you feel more joy…
- through understanding what joy truly looks and feels like for you personally
- by breaking down the barriers that prevent you from accessing joy
- by identifying what already brings you joy and how you can amplify it on a daily basis
- by valuing the impact that joy has on yourself as well as the ripple effect of your joy on those around you and beyond
- and by nurturing, nourishing, sustaining and embodying your joy
“Before coaching I had been totally overwhelmed and stressed with work and life in general. I felt I had to do the ‘right’ thing rather than what I needed. I was struggling to enjoy myself or simply to just be myself. Now I’ve realised that I don’t have to prove anything to anyone and that I’m in control of my own path. I accept that I’m still going to face obstacles in life but I’m also aware that I don’t need to let negative emotions get the better of me. I can take control. You’ve helped me to not only improve my mental health, but also that of my colleagues and the children I work with.”
- Clare Ramsbottom
“I feel like I can breathe properly, like a weight has come away from my shoulders. My husband has noticed that I am far calmer and more patient. My friends have noticed that I have a new bounce in my step and I believe that my children have benefitted massively as I am seeing them modelling my behaviour and mindset.
“I feel that I am a better wife, mother, friend and me as a result of Gabrielle’s support and guidance. I feel more confident about who I am and what I need. I am happier, look at things in a calmer and more peaceful way and haven’t let myself get so emotionally upset with various life events.”
- Karin Joyce
My promise to you
Here’s what I won’t do – I won't skim over the difficult stuff or brush away what feels hard. I won’t tell you what you should or have to do and I won’t give you a list of instructions to follow.
Here’s what I will do – I will respect you as the intelligent, thoughtful, caring, big-hearted, sensitive woman you are.
I will hold for you a safe space to talk, to feel, to share freely as yourself.
I will support you to tune into your intuition, to build your self-trust, to strengthen your inner belief and to unearth the hidden wisdom you hold inside yourself.
I will help you find the power within to create the life that you want, that feels authentic, fulfilling, uplifting, inspiring, joyful and utterly true to your unique and beautiful self.
Freedom Sessions Package
You will receive:
Freedom Sessions questionnaire
90 mins initial coaching video call
60 mins coaching video calls every two weeks for 4 months (7 calls in total)
Recordings of all coaching calls
Email support throughout our time together
Any relevant resources
4-month coaching programme: one payment of £990 or spread the cost with 4 x monthly payments of £250, or 6 x monthly payments of £170.
Coach in Your Pocket
If you're looking for shorter-term coaching, support that's more flexible to fit around your busy life, or if making scheduled Zoom calls is challenging, take a look at Coach in Your Pocket by clicking here.
“When we started coaching I was exhausted, overwhelmed, work dominated everything, and you helped me feel safe. I’ve rediscovered joy, my sense of adventure and what I need to sparkle and thrive. I feel more in tune with myself, I’m speaking up for what I want and I have practical tools to continue navigating through life. Thank you for being my cheerleader.”
“Before coaching I felt flat, disconnected and overwhelmed, I couldn't find joy and I realised I couldn't struggle on alone anymore. Now I'm finding it easier to say no, to delegate, I realise I matter too, I take much better care of myself, and I do something I relish every day. I'm less resentful, burnt out and I'm much more open to life. Coaching with Gabrielle has been illuminating, safe, and such a positive experience.”
Hi, I'm Gabrielle
I spent the majority of my years being the responsible one you could rely on, wrestling with my introverted, empathetic nature (because I didn't know that's what it was), trying my utmost to get everything right, to make everyone happy, to stop being so sensitive and quiet, and being the helpful, good girl I should be. And by doing so I spent a lot of my time overthinking, overdoing and feeling overwhelmed. I wasn't thriving in the life I tried so hard to perfect.
Through discovering the world of positive psychology and applying what I was exploring and learning in my own life, it allowed me to accept myself as the introverted, deep thinking, big-hearted, empathetic, sensitive woman I am AND to live the fulfilling, calm, authentic, peaceful, joyful life I dreamed of.
I trained in life and positive psychology coaching so that I can support you to live the calmer, happier life that’s true to the real you too.
Through my online courses, workshops and 1:1 coaching I've helped hundreds of women to find more calm and joy in their daily lives.
I’m a certified life coach having completed training with the Beautiful You Life Coaching Academy and positive psychology coaching with the Wholebeing Institute. I am committed to ongoing professional and personal development.
To discuss coaching with me book a complimentary consultation call
Am I the coach for you?
If you are a woman who is…
• Open to exploring your feelings, thoughts, beliefs and mindset
• Ready to make changes and try doing things differently
• Willing and able to invest in yourself
• Feeling like, in the sea of life, you're treading water and you want to get swimming again
…I’m here for you
However, if you are…
• Struggling with functioning in day to day life
• Looking for someone to tell you what to do
• Resistant to looking at your thoughts, feelings and life in detail or making changes
• Feeling like, in the sea of life, you're under water
…this is not the right time for us to work together
If you're struggling to function in daily life it may be advisable to seek treatment from a trained counsellor or psychotherapist. Speak to your GP, check out the UK Council for Psychotherapy psychotherapy.org.uk or call Mind on 0300 1233393.
“I can thoroughly recommend coaching with Gabrielle. I was stuck ruminating over a particular issue and her skilled, supportive, positive, non-judgmental approach helped me get to the nub of the problem and enabled me to come up with some achievable goals which have helped me in the present but also encouraged me to build my resilience for the future. I cannot thank her enough.”
- Paula Dear
“I have found the whole experience transformative, I couldn't have got here without Gabrielle. Before I started coaching I would get to the end of a week feeling exhausted and stressed. Now I feel my brain has slowed down and the battle to stop overthinking is getting far easier. I feel more calm than I ever have and more confident that I can reach goals that I've set myself. As a result of coaching with Gabrielle I'm worrying far less than ever before.”
- Laura Rees
Frequently Asked Questions
Put simply an introvert is someone whose energy is depleted by being around other people, while an extrovert gains energy from being with others. Introversion is not the same as being shy and introverts DO like people and aren't anti-social! It's simply that being with people for an extended period of time drains the energy of an introvert and they need time alone to recharge their batteries.
The simple explanation of an empath is that it's someone who has their empathy volume button turned right up – they feel what other people are feeling as if they're experiencing those emotions themselves. It can be overwhelming to sense others' feelings and confusing when it's hard to tell if the feelings belong to yourself or someone else.
Our coaching sessions are held on Zoom which means you can be anywhere in the world! We talk face to face, over the internet, and I record the audio of our sessions and email you the recording so you can listen to it again whenever you like. We also stay in touch by email between our calls.
By working together for four or six months in the Freedom Sessions you'll be surprised by the shifts that can happen and how empowered you will feel by the action you take.
After completing the questionnaire which helps you to get clearer on how you want to feel and be and what's getting in the way of that now, we'll have our first video coaching call which is 90mins long. Then, about every two weeks after that we have our video coaching calls, which are 60mins long each.
After each call I'll send you an audio recording and any resources I feel may be helpful. We stay in contact over email between our calls so that I can continue to provide the support, and often accountability, you need.
Coaching is different to therapy and counselling in a number of ways. Therapy is more focused on diagnosed anxiety disorders or trauma and within sessions you may investigate causes for the anxiety, looking back to the past for explanations. In therapy you may be given a structured process or strategy with specific instructions or a set path to follow.
Coaching is about acknowledging the past and looking forward, with you, the client, taking positive action steps towards the life you want. With coaching we set goals for how you want to feel and be, and actions to keep you moving towards the goals. As your coach I ask powerful questions, listen, inspire, I hold you accountable, explore what’s coming up for you as the client and support you to stay in positive action.
I may offer suggestions, provide resources and support but, importantly, I don't give you the answers, instructions or tell you what to do. Coaching is very much about empowering you, the client, to self-actualise and do the work to keep the momentum going to move towards your goals.
Not at all. Because our coaching sessions are online video calls through Skype or Zoom you can be anywhere in the world! As well as in the UK I've worked with people in different time zones, in Australia, Canada, Singapore, Europe, and it hasn't been a problem. Together we'll find a time for our coaching calls that work for both of us.
Women supporting women
As a business, I donate to Women for Women International through their Sponsor a Sister programme which works with women in war-torn places to equip them with the skills to earn money, build their confidence, take care of their health and understand their rights.
This means that when you coach with me you're providing another woman with much needed support, as well as yourself.
“I wanted to create a business but I lacked self-confidence, self-trust and my intuition was hidden. I wanted to get my mindset straight. Following coaching there has been a major shift in my thinking thanks to some realisations. I feel lighter, relieved, liberated, and I am not exaggerating, this is a complete game-changer. I'd describe coaching with Gabrielle as eye-opening, life-changing and liberating. This has been an amazing experience that I was ready for and I really recommend working with Gabrielle.”
- Nina Gruenewald
“I was feeling overwhelmed and anxious about having a long-term plan when I started working with Gabrielle. Through coaching I have slowed down, I'm not so impulsive, I'm really present – being instead of doing – and I can communicate my feelings without feeling guilty about them.”
- Karen Wyness
“I have emerged from our time together a more creative and confident version of myself. Gabrielle expressed her belief in me and recognised the progress I was making each session – this was invaluable and kept me going through the tough times. She fully heard and understood what my struggles were and I felt supported and confident working with her. The environment she created, along with powerful questions and insightful reflections, led to some real ah-ha moments. Coaching with Gabrielle has been a truly enriching experience.”
- Issie Freeman
“It really helped to talk things through with you in the coaching sessions. I feel I’ve gained some perspective, some practical steps that I’m already using and been able to take a more gentle approach with myself. So a big thank you!”
“I overachieved on my goal and made lots of progress on the surrounding actions. I also felt a greater sense of purpose within our busy family roles (ie not just a mum taxi and chef). I chose to coach with Gabrielle due to her years of experience in positive psychology. Having someone to be accountable to made all the difference to me and my motivation was spring-boarded! I cannot recommend Gabrielle highly enough, she's someone you’d be very thankful to have in your life.”
- Juliet Thomas