Does this sound familiar?
- If a friend, colleague, or even stranger, reacts to you in a different way than expected you worry it must be because they're upset with you, taken offence or that you did something wrong
- When something terrible happens in the world you find yourself glued to the news, even though you can feel yourself getting more upset and worried about the state of the world
- When you're with other people you get distracted wondering how you're coming across to them, what opinion they're forming of you from your appearance, your voice, your behaviour
- On a happy occasion or when you notice how joyful you're feeling, there's a nagging worry in the back of your mind that things are going too well and something will go wrong because you're happy
- You imagine scenarios where you face hardship or trauma and worry how you'd cope
- After an event that you enjoyed or went well you feel annoyed with yourself that you spent energy and time worrying about it beforehand
If the above rings a bell you’re in the right place
You don’t let your overthinking reach a point where it stops you from doing things but it does take away some of the enjoyment as well as your sense of calm. Spending time stuck in worry means there's less time and energy to be present and enjoy all of the good things going on in your life and the world around you. Even when you know you're getting bogged down in worry you find it hard to extricate yourself from your thoughts and be in your life, just as it is in that moment.
- You know that you spend more time worrying than you want to, you know that you're not enjoying your life quite as fully as you feel you could, and you want that to change
- When you’re with family or friends you want to be really present in that moment, experiencing the joy that you can see others feeling, rather than being stuck in your head
- You want to feel content with what you have and look forward to future challenges without feeling fed up with your current lot
- You want to feel that, while they may be upsetting and difficult, whatever curveballs life throws up you will be able to cope with them
You, my overthinking worrier friend, are in the right place.
Welcome to my world
Having the same thoughts going round and round your head, feeling stuck in that cycle, is no fun and feels hard to break out of.
I get it, I've been there, a lot. I've spent way too much of my life being stuck in my head reliving past events and conversations, imagining a million possible scenarios in the future, trying to keep in control of everything, fretting over what other people are thinking, pretending I’m paying attention when really I’m in my head, wondering what if, what if, what if… and all the while the world carries on around me, without me fully participating within my own life.
It's exhausting and stressful. You don't want to feel like this, you don't want to get stuck in your head thinking a gazillion thoughts, you want to really live your life, enjoying it as everyone else seems to be doing. But it feels so hard to break that cycle.
It doesn’t have to be this way
And yet, my lovely, overthinking friend, I'm here to tell you that it is possible to break that cycle, to soothe those stresses and worries, to free yourself from being chained to your thoughts, and by doing so feel calmer, lighter, more confident and truly enjoy life.
That may sound like a bold claim and I say it with confidence. Because I’ve experienced all the overthinking and worrying I’ve described above. I'm not about to tell you that my life is now a perfect, Disney-esque dream because no-one's life is, that doesn’t exist. What I will tell you is that I am calmer, more light-hearted, relaxed, focused, and confident than I've ever been.
“Everything Gabrielle shares is supportive and practical not to mention inspiring! You feel as though you’re reading from and listening to someone who truly does understand.“
I overthink less and enjoy life more, and so can you
What I will tell you is that I spend a great deal less time lost in my head, going over thoughts and getting bogged down with everyday worries than I used to. I've studied mindfulness, brain health and coaching, and experimented everything I've researched from positive psychology on myself. By doing so I worry and overthink less and enjoy my life more.
You don’t have to struggle any more, here’s how I can help you
- Join the free Facebook group here – it's a safe place for people who overthink to gather and know you're not alone
- Take one of my online courses – I share positive psychology-researched tools, strategies and actions, and how you can practically apply them to your life, check out the range here
- Work with me 1:1 – through coaching we’ll work on your specific challenges and empower you to be free from overthinking and live the life you deserve and dream, find out more here
- Coming soon… The Calm Mind Club where overthinkers find calm, confidence and community, click here to be the first to know when it's open to join
“I now feel like I am not alone, that there is someone out there who really understands what being an overthinker feels like and how it can impact on your life. Thanks Gabrielle, so much!”
You are not alone in how you feel.
Yes, you can get lost in overthinking and worry but you're not the only one who does it. There's nothing wrong with you, it doesn't make you weak or silly and, even if this is how it's always felt for you, this is not how it always needs to be.
You have the ability, the strength and the power within you to break the cycle of thoughts in your head, to throw off the pressing weight of thinking a million thoughts a minute, to free yourself from that trapped feeling of being chained to your thoughts and worries and busy mind.
You’re in the right place, I’m the support you’ve been looking for.
Click the links listed in the Support section above or ask me about how I can help you by clicking here.
”Gabrielle has the knowledge and know-how plus she’s been there and knows what we go through first hand. I can’t thank Gabrielle enough for what she’s done so far. It’s helped me in so many ways.”