A quieter, kinder way to understand yourself
For many women, discovering ADHD later in life can bring relief, grief and more questions than it answers.
Finally, decades of overthinking, striving, masking and self-doubt have an explanation. But discovering their ADHD is only the beginning. Many women are still left wondering how to make sense of who they are after years trying so hard to fit in, feeling like they’re too much and not enough.
The Quiet ADHD Club is a gentle, supportive online space for introverted, sensitive, late-discovered ADHD women who don't see themselves reflected in the stereotypical presentation of an outwardly chaotic, flamboyant extrovert. In the Club you're seen, understood and welcomed as your quiet self.
It's where you can discover how to work with your brain, and build inner calm and confidence to be your true self.
No pressure. No judgement. No fixing because you’re not broken. Instead you’ll find explanation, guidance, support and community – a place where you don’t have to figure everything out on your own (you've got me in your corner).
By being a part of the Club you will be able to work with your brain, not against it, have greater self-compassion and confidence in speaking up for your needs, and be better able to handle everyday challenges like procrastination, perfectionism and RSD.
You might recognise yourself here…
You’ve spent your life trying to be who you think you’re supposed to be, containing and criticising yourself, striving to do more, to be more, to keep up but feeling like you’re still behind.
You’re baffled and frustrated by your overthinking, procrastinating, perfectionism, struggle to focus and finish, and the constant feeling you’re getting life wrong.
You've tried so hard to make people happy, to please and never let anyone down (or be thought of as a disappointment), even though it’s exhausting and makes you feel resentful (which then makes you feel guilty). And yet you still feel like you’re letting down others, and yourself.
You’re curious and interested in so many things but carry shame for changing hobbies, ideas, even careers you were once so excited about – the creative, joyful you craves more ease and freedom.
The toll it takes on you from working so hard to keep up the façade, hold it all together, to not disappoint or mess up even though you feel like a fraud because you’re barely holding it together, is immense – it results in exhaustion, anxiety and burnout.
You may suspect you have ADHD, and perhaps autism or other neurodivergences too, waiting for an assessment or you may have a diagnosis (no diagnosis necessary to be here).
If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone.
Many of the women who join The Quiet ADHD Club arrive with these feelings and experiences.
Gabrielle holds space exquisitely, there’s a gentleness that is powerful, it’s a way of saying she’s got you. You feel accepted, seen, she shares her safety with you.
- Sarah
What is The Quiet ADHD Club?
The Quiet ADHD Club is the online home created by quiet ADHDer, coach and author Gabrielle Treanor for sensitive, introverted women who don’t see themselves reflected in the stereotypical presentation of an outwardly chaotic, flamboyant extrovert.
Quiet ADHD women, often diagnosed with inattentive ADHD and perhaps with autism or another neurodivergence, have been missed for most of their lives because their ADHD is internalised – the overthinking, the second-guessing, the 100mph brain, the myriad strategies to keep it all together and the huge effort and energy it all takes.
In the Quiet ADHD Club you’ll find a place where, finally, you can take a breath, drop your shoulders and know you’re among kindred spirits.
Inside you’ll find deep-dives into ADHD topics, a wealth of resources including practical tools, live sessions such as body-doubling, and a supportive community. It’s a space where you can find explanation and understanding, where you are recognised, validated and accepted, as you are.
There’s no expectation to join in, no pressure to keep up and you can’t fall behind. The Quiet ADHD Club resources and support are there for you to access how you choose.
Through the Club you will better understand your brain and learn to work with it not against it, you'll feel more able to handle everyday challenges like procrastination, perfectionism and RSD, and you'll gain greater self-compassion and confidence to speak up for your needs.
What members say
It's hard to describe the difference I feel finding the Quiet ADHD Club and knowing it's not just me. I've spent 43 years feeling like I'm lazy, unorganised, always get social skills and the odd one out. And then The Quiet ADHD Club popped up. Here was a sensible supportive group with no melodrama. I don't always manage to get to the body doubling sessions but when I do these have been surprisingly helpful. I haven't started being open about ADHD but the support from Gabrielle is helping me to work through some of these feelings.
The Quiet ADHD Club is the first ADHD-specific space I've been in. It's been a source of comfort and support as I've come to terms with my neurodiversity. And it's been hugely informative, helping me get to grips with managing various aspects of my neurodiversity in the neurotypical world. I feel more seen, more accepted and more understood since joining the Quiet ADHD Club and that's been a balm for me.
I get a great deal out of the Club weekly. Gabrielle's writing is accessible and deep at the same time and makes me feel seen and understood (something women with ADHD often do not feel). Meeting friendly, lovely people has been a joy and I feel part of a gentle, supportive community. Gabrielle is a warm, inspiring and well-informed facilitator and coach. She draws the good out of each of us in the community to our flourishing.
Why join the Quiet ADHD Club
Through being a member of the Quiet ADHD Club you:
Have a greater understanding of how your brain works and the impact on how you feel and behave
Are better able to work with your brain and nature rather than fighting it
Feel more confident in speaking up for your needs
Are more able to handle everyday challenges like procrastination, perfectionism, overthinking, distraction and RSD
Have a greater understanding and acceptance of yourself with self-compassion
Feel seen, validated and welcomed as your true self
What members say
If you know Gabrielle you can imagine what a quiet, supportive and informative space The Quiet ADHD Club is. A light touch, easy to access, community for learning from experts, finding accountability through weekly posts and body doubling sessions that really help to get things done! If you think you're ADHD and an introvert I can't think of a better place to learn more and find simple, practical support to help get through the week.
The Club has been a big support to me since I self-diagnosed as ADHD at the age of 60. The site's wide-ranging materials are informative and enlightening but above all it's the online meetings with others in the same situations that are particularly supportive. The body-doubling sessions enable me to get tasks done which I have been putting off and the community calls are enjoyable with no pressure. The Club has enabled me to feel more accepting of and less anxious about the way my brain works.
The Quiet ADHD Club is brilliant! Gabrielle's suggestions on quietening the overthinking brain helped me sleep last night after a wretched night of overthinking.
I can report the tax return is complete, as is all of my pile of scanning. It feels good. I have noticed so much rewiring happening in my brain since discovering the Quiet ADHD Club.
What you’ll find inside
Inside the Club you’ll find:
Explorations – an extensive library of deep dives into ADHD features and challenges including procrastination, overthinking, RSD, confidence, self-compassion and nervous system regulation, added to each month
Exploration interviews – guest experts speaking ,on subjects such as hormones, sleep, relationships, finances and decluttering
Practical strategies and tools to work with your brain not against it
Content that can be read, listened to or watched – your choice
Weekly accountability and body-doubling sessions
Q&As and community calls
Bonus resources including online courses and special offers
Understanding, validation and acceptance of your whole self
How you use the Club is your choice, the community aspects are optional with zero expectation or pressure to join in. This is THE home for quiet, introverted ADHDers after all…
This month in the Club…
During September our Exploration is on how to quiet your inner mean girl with 'From Inner Critic to Inner Ally – a four-week toolkit'.
…and next month
For October in the Club we're tackling procrastination with 'Make a Start – a five-day challenge for when you know what you want to do but can't seem to begin'.
While we focus on a different topic each month, everything in the Club is there for you when you're ready for it. There's no keeping up and you can't fall behind. You're free to explore at your own pace.
Hi, I'm Gabrielle
I’m an ICF accredited coach, writer, podcaster, and author in the UK, and at the age of 48 I was diagnosed with ADHD. Long before this discovery I had been supporting women with common symptoms of ADHD such as people-pleasing, perfectionism, procrastination, overthinking, and overwhelm. I’m quiet (too quiet I’ve been told), introverted, sensitive (too sensitive as well) and highly empathetic.
I’ve had a successful career in children’s publishing, built and sold a profitable stationery business, trained and worked as a coach and educator, saw my first book, The 1% Wellness Experiment, published, and achieved an MSc in Applied Positive Psychology, all without knowing I’ve been living with ADHD all my life.
I've studied mindfulness with Bangor University's Centre for Mindfulness Research and Practice, and I'm a certified Anchored trauma-informed coach.
I'm currently creating the UK's first literary festival dedicated entirely to wellbeing books, Better Read Book Fest, on 3 October.
A gentle invitation
If you’ve recognised yourself in these words, maybe you’ve already found what you’ve been looking for.
A place where you’ll feel understood and accepted, perhaps for the first time. A place where you can discover how to work with your brain and nature, to value and appreciate your whole self.
I’d love to welcome you into The Quiet ADHD Club.
Join The Quiet ADHD Club
Monthly
£20
Annual
£180
( That's 3 free months! )
